We have a tendency to blame our situation and our circumstances. To view the life that we live as having been deigned by forces outside of our control.
While there are some occasions when life will throw you a curveball that you can't control, the rest of the time, it's all down to us.
If you're currently in a job you hate and that makes you highly stressed, then you're in that position because you chose to be there.
It might not feel like it was a choice but even inaction is a decision that you make.
You chose not to find work elsewhere. You chose to let these circumstances be seen as acceptable.
And you probably also choose to let your workplace take advantage of you.
And to live in a home that you're not absolutely thrilled with.